Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Saturday, February 7, 2009

Valentines and Roses


One of my favorite antique books is a tiny volume by the title of The Bouquet: Containing the Poetry and Language of Flowers, by A Lady, published in 1846. On the title page there is a lovely poem that tells the reader why this book is so very valuable:

"Flowers are love's truest language; they betray,
Like the divining rods of magi old,
Where priceless wealth lies buried; not of gold,
But love, strong love, that never can decay!
I send thee flowers, O dearest! and I deem
That from their petals thou wilt hear sweet words,
Whose music, clearer than the voice of birds,
When breathed to thee alone, perchance, may seem
All eloquent of feelings unexpressed" . . . . P. Benjamin.

Within its pages, The Bouquet lists the various meanings of flowers, some still popular today, along with an accompanying poem for each. I found it very interesting that there are various meanings for roses, depending on the type and color. It lists the following:

Austrian Rose -- "Thou art all that's lovely"
Bridal Rose -- "Happy Love"
Damask Rose -- "Bashful Love"
Moss Rose -- "Superior Merit"
China Rose -- "Grace"
White Rose -- "Sadness"
Yellow Rose -- "Infidelity"




Tuesday, July 24, 2007

Vintage Marriage Advice


With what is now known as the "wedding season" upon us, I thought it might be fun to share some vintage marriage advice. I have a group I belong to (FabricinAlteredArt) where we are in the process of doing an "altered recipe card" exchange. I took the vintage marriage advice I will share with you here and created my recipe card -- "Recipe for Wedded Bliss." I have posted the picture here, front and back.


The advice comes from my 1883 book, Our Home. I'd love to see your comments on how applicable or not you believe it is for today! --


"How to be a Good Husband:


  • Honor your wife.

  • Love your wife.

  • Show your love.

  • Suffer for your wife if need be.

  • Study to keep her young.

  • Consult her.

  • Help her to bear her burdens.

  • Be thoughtful of her always.

  • Don't command, but suggest.

  • Seek to refine your own nature.

  • Be a gentleman as well as a husband.

  • Remember the past experience of your wife.

  • Level up to her character.

  • Stay at home as much as possible.

  • Take your wife with you often.

  • Study her interests.


How to be a Good Wife:


  • Reverence your husband.

  • Love him.

  • Forsake all for him.

  • Confide in him.

  • Keep his love.

  • Cultivate the modesty and delicacy of youth.

  • Cultivate personal attractiveness.

  • If you read nothing and make no effort to be intelligent, you will soon sink into a dull block of stupidity.

  • Make your home attractive.

  • Preserve sunshine.

  • Studyyour husband's character and cultivate his better nature.

  • Study his interests.

  • Practice frugality."